LookUp 2017 – Relationships Edition

Over the last two years LookUp has grown and evolved! Lookup 2017 saw over 180 young people from 11 schools explore wellbeing around relationships, learning alongside 100 health professionals.

Our team collaborated with the best organisations to provide diverse and engaging workshops delivered by young professionals.

My Voice Matters

My Voice Matters is an interactive youth empowerment workshop aimed at supporting young people to harness and use their own unique and powerful voices to create positive change. Using the creative tool of spoken word poetry, this workshop will be an exciting opportunity for young people to connect and share in a safe and supportive space, and a chance for Rika to pass on the valuable life lessons she has come to learn through her experiences.

The founder of My Voice Matters, Rika Paikea, is a 23 year old youth mentor from South Auckland. She has lived an unconventional life; overcoming adversities such as mental illness, abuse, addiction and homelessness

You can find out more here: www.facebook.com/myvoicemattersnz

Love Life Fono

Relationships and the Vā

What does it mean to be a Pacific person in Aotearoa in the 21st Century? This workshop will look at how Pacific people can navigate the world of relationships. Love Life Fono Trust (LLF Trust) is a new organisation that aims to support, empower and activate Rainbow Pasifika communities in Aotearoa. The speakers, Jono Selu and Jaycee Tanuvasa are both social activists that sit on the LLF Trust Board. Jono has a background in health promotion and young people’s wellbeing. Jaycee is a creative practitioner with a passion for social justice and young people.

Auckland Sexual Health Services

Intimate relationships can be tricky at the best of times and talking to your partner about sexual health and personal boundaries can be awkward. This workshop will be split into three sections and will;

1 – Explore conversations young people shoulder be having with people they are sexually intimate with to help look after themselves.

2 – Look at how relationships can become unhealthy and some of the common reasons why that is.

3 – Discuss ending a relationship in the age of social media.

Auckland Sexual Health Service is a free regional service for people wanting help and support for the testing, treatment and diagnosis of sexually transmitted infections (STI). They have four clinics in Auckland (Greenlane, Mangere, Henderson and Glenfield) and are contactable at 0800 739 432.

Rape Prevention Education (RPE) – BodySafe Team

The workshop on Healthy and Respectful Relationships will focus mainly on consent and how people can negotiate consent in a respectful and safe way. We will look at what consent is and then go into some important considerations people need to keep in mind when negotiating consent. The workshop will also explore times when people are not able to give consent.

This interactive workshop will include 2 videos and activities.

At the end of the workshop we hope that participants would know what ASKING, LISTENING, RESPECTING and REFLECTING look like, feel like and sound like.

Rape Prevention Education (RPE) works in the greater Auckland area to prevent sexual violence through the delivery of education and health promotion/prevention activities. RPE delivers well established and popular education programmes and resources for youth and professionals, including BodySafe, Dealing with Disclosures and Mates and Dates.

Action Station

Community Campaigns Manager of OurActionStation, Eliot Pryor will lead a session exploring the tools for engaging as a citizen with causes, politics and hope.

ActionStation is a digital community of more than 170,000 like-minded members who participate in campaigns designed to drive a fairer, more just and sustainable Aotearoa New Zealand.

ActionStation’s job is to connect people so that their voice has more impact and power to hold political and corporate interests to account

www.actionstation.org.nz

https://our.actionstation.org.nz

Mindsets/Connect Supporting Recovery

Developing a positive relationship with yourself.

The workshop begins with a brief introduction exercise, then a basic mindfulness practice. There is a short teaching point on the significance of building a positive relationship with self in terms of resilience. We run 2 exercises- ‘Letter from a future self’ and a self-compassion practice (depending on how the timings go we might just run one exercise and give the other as a take away practice). Participants are given handouts for both of these exercises as well as a list of further information and resources which they could take away to continue to practice and apply in daily life.

Mindsets is a 7 week mindfulness based resiliency program for youth which has been running in a selected number of schools across Auckland in the last few years. This course has been developed by Changeability, the social enterprise arm of Connect Supporting Recovery over the last 5 years, and is currently being expanded and adapted for adults in the corporate and business sectors as well. It is based on the latest resiliency, mindfulness, and positive psychology research. It’s fundamental underpinnings are ACT (Acceptance and commitment therapy) and Mindfulness.

Vikki Baird is a Counselling Psychologist working in private practice, Vikki runs introduction to Mindfulness workshops through Mindfulness Works, as well as facilitating and being part of the on-going development team for Mindsets.

Vikki also works individually with adults and teenagers who are experiencing anxiety, self-esteem, relationship, or adjustment issues in daily life.

LookUp 2016 – Hall of Inspiration

LookUp 2016 featured young people’s stories showcased in a Hall of Inspiration, which celebrates young people who inspire their communities by succeeding in adversity.

Angelee

Angelee has come a long way to where she is now. Angelee has been through a lot for a young person her age from being bullied. Now Angelee has overcome and has grown as a young person inside and out and is doing really well.

At school, I have seen Angelee be helpful/supportive towards other students in her class such as sharing her lunch with students if they don’t have any lunch.

Angelee’s long term goal is to carry on with studying after Alt Ed; to get university entrance and study English Literature and Business studies which will lead her into owning her own publishing firm one day.

This is the reason why I am nominating Angelee because her strength to overcome adversity and be an inspiration to other young people.

Yasmine

Yasmine grew up in West Auckland with her mother. When Yasmine was a teenager her mother separated from her partner and withdrew which left Yasmine feeling like her mother didn’t care about her anymore. She didn’t like school, started wagging and began drinking because there was nothing to do at home. She got addicted to alcohol, drinking daily. She dropped out of school and gave up her dream to dance. She felt her attitude changed her into someone she never wanted to be.

One night she jumped into a stolen car with a drunk driver, who crashed. Yasmine luckily was unhurt. It wasn’t until Yasmine got pregnant at 17 that she realised she had to stop drinking. She went back to school when she was pregnant and through the support of a teen parent unit she finished  NCEA. In 2016 Yasmine started studying Sports and Recreation and has re-ignited her passion for dance. She wants to be a PE teacher and choreographer and travel and work overseas in the future.

In 2015 Yasmine volunteered to be involved in a study into the alcohol and other drug experiences of at risk young people in West Auckland carried out by the Community Action Youth and Drugs (CAYAD) team at Auckland Council. She then agreed to be part of a campaign created to highlight alcohol and drug harms and the themes identified in the study. Yasmine willingly shared her story on video, which has been launched online. Yasmine has some inspirational messages for young people and says that “dropping out of school was my biggest regret” and that “when people don’t have support, like kids, they feel like they’re not cared for, so they don’t care about what they do”.

Tane

Tane started drinking alcohol at age nine, smoking marijuana at 11 and most other drugs at 15-16. He started drinking because his father always drank and he started smoking to fit in with his older brother. He felt that it seemed normal to him at the time. Tane left school at 16 as he felt bullied and used drugs as a way to stop thinking about how bad he felt his life was. There were times when he wouldn’t leave house for up to 10 days at a time, staying in his bedroom smoking drugs. At one stage Tane also lived on the streets.

Things gradually got darker and darker and when Tane was 19 or 20 he looked around and felt very alone, with no real friends. One day an old friend offered him help and he gladly accepted it. Over the next 6 months his friend helped re-introduce him to life again, helping him get back on his feet. He says ‘it felt pretty good, like going from a black and white to colour TV”.

Tane got help from a local youth health organisation and in 2016 started working full time.

In 2015, Tane volunteered to be involved in a study into the alcohol and other drug experiences of at risk young people in West Auckland carried out by the Community Action Youth and Drugs (CAYAD) team at Auckland Council. He then agreed to be part of a campaign created to highlight alcohol and drug harms and the themes identified in the study. Tane willingly shared his story on video, which has just been launched online.

Chantal

In the mere twenty one years Chantal has spent on planet earth, she has already made it a better place for so many people whose lives she has touched. Chantal has overcome many challenging obstacles most of us could never even imagine, and although traumatic events of her past could have determined a hopeless future, Chantal has defied what otherwise could’ve been the fate of living a repetitive destructive cycle, if it weren’t for her sheer courage and strength, and her utter determination to create a better life for herself and her family.

It doesn’t take much for anyone to notice how hard Chantal strives to always give her best, especially when it comes to her children. Chantal’s first child was born with one hand and one “lucky fin.” His condition has never stopped Chantal from instilling into him and his sister that they are capable of doing anything they set their mind to, and what better role model to teach them this important life lesson than their incredible mother who puts negative teenage – mum – stereotyping to shame.

She has accomplished so much at such a young age, and I believe she is proof that it doesn’t matter who you are, how old you are or which cards you have been dealt in life; every person has unique and exponential potential to do great things.

Nicole

Nicole is a 22 year old young female who is in recovery from her alcohol abuse. She suffered depression and used self harm as a way to manage her own emotions and reality.

Self reflection, commitment and perseverance has kept her on her journey and Nicole has been alcohol free since March 2016. She is determined to face her fears and keep working on her goals and self discovery journey.

William

William started using alcohol as a young teenager as a way to escape reality after his father went to prison. He started using cannabis at 16 or 17 which then led to harder drugs and at 18 started using meth. He used frequently for 4-5 years and at the same time was dealing with significant mental health issues. He found himself becoming violent and even attempted suicide.

During this time William became a father and he began to realise the extent of this addiction problem when he pushed his partner. After a series of moments where he found himself reflecting on his life, his accomplishments and the responsibility of fatherhood, William reached out and asked for help from his family. He was 24 at the time. His family supported his access to health services which culminated in a 3 ½ weeks stay in a mental health unit. He credits receiving this help from his family and respective health services as helping him to stop using, and has been clean ever since.

In 2015 as William was re-building his life, he volunteered his time to be involved in a study into the alcohol and other drug experiences of at risk young people in West Auckland carried out by the Community Action Youth and Drugs (CAYAD) team at Auckland Council. Following this William agreed to be part of a campaign created to highlight alcohol and drug harms and the themes identified in the study. William willingly shared his story on video and then spoke publicly for the first time at the launch of BUZZED. William is now proud to be in full time employment, has a positive relationship with his daughter and is actively looking for opportunities to help other young people struggling with addiction and mental health concerns.

Leafaitulagi

This young person has overcome adversity in their life to be an inspiration by always managing to put a smile on whoever she encounters. Despite the many challenges and depressing situations she has faced, it amazes me how strong of an individual she is. She is the oldest of two kids, therefore faces an immense pressure of responsibility.

Leafaitulagi is simply my role model. As a young girl, her ability to cope with everything is really astounding. Her busy lifestyle consists of volunteering at Middlemore Hospital and church fundraising, and pianist for her church services every Sunday. Despite the extra church commitments during the weekdays, she still manages to maintain good grades in school. She is such a caring and loving person, and tries her best to provide money/food to any homeless person she may encounter as well.

Leafaitulagi faced a variety of tragedies that once put her in a state of depression, this was when she had lost her beloved Grandma and when she had her first heart break from a relationship. How she overcame these obstacles inspired me to become a better person myself. Not only did she try her best managing all her responsibilities but how she picked herself up from her depressing situations, encouraged me to carry on and move on with life even if things seemed like it wouldn’t get better.

Eva

Eva is 16 years old. She has one mission in life – to end sexual violence and to support those who have experienced its devastating effects.  This mission is even more important because Eva is dying of cancer.

“When you know your days are numbered, it really makes it clear what matters to you. I really want to make a positive difference that will still be helping people’s lives after I am gone – to give more in life than that I have taken.

More of my friends have been sexually assaulted than not – and they had no one to turn to.”

Eva is inspiring others through her activism towards ending sexual violence.

Sexual violence is something that many people are aware of, but find difficult to talk about. Eva is not afraid to stand up and ask tough questions about sexual violence:

“1 in 3 girls in NZ will be sexually abused, 1 in 7 boys. I’m not OK with that. Are you?”

Eva is using her dying wish to raise awareness of the needs of young people who have experienced sexual violence. She has written an open letter to Social Development Minister Anne Tolley asking her to help create an online space for young people to go to where they can be supported and receive help from trained counsellors.

Eva has also set up a givealittle page to raise funds for HELP, an Auckland charity that works with sexual violence. Her aim is to raise $50,000 by the end of September, 2016. Eva wants “a New Zealand that I can feel safe leaving my loved ones in without me being there to look after them.”

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